There are people who build up and people who tear down.
He came home from preschool and was telling me about his day. My son was four and was into building large towers out of the oversized wooden blocks at his preschool. This day, he mentioned that Dustin had knocked down his tower.
“I thought Dustin was your friend,” I commented.
“Well, he’s not,” said my son matter of factly. “Friends don’t knock down your tower.”
He’s said a lot of clever things in his life, and he probably doesn’t remember these words of wisdom. But I never forgot them.
Some people build up others. They are encouragers and appreciators. They are kind, observant, and helpful. They’re the people we need to be, and also the people we need in our lives.
Some people tear down others. They criticize and complain. They point out everything wrong with what we’re doing. They make life less pleasant and more difficult.
Who would you rather have in your life—someone who builds you up or someone who tears you down? That’s a rhetorical question. We all prefer someone who edifies rather than someone who is negative and hurtful
Building people up is more than just a nice trait. It’s an instruction from God. Here’s some Bible:
“So encourage each other and build each other up…” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs…” (Ephesians 4:29)
“So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up.” (Romans 14:19)
I’m convinced our words and our actions should build others up, not tear them down.
Here are two questions to think about:
- Do your words edify, encourage, and strengthen others?
- Are there people in your life who edify, encourage, and strengthen you?
Y’all, the world has plenty of people who will knock down our towers. We don’t need to add to their ranks. We need to be people who speak a kind word about someone’s tower and then hand them the block they need next to keep building . And we need to appreciate those amazing people in our lives who do that for us.
Dear God, thank you for the people in my life who have encouraged me and built me up. Help me be that person in the lives of others. Help me build others up and stop my words before I say anything that discourages someone or drags someone down. In Jesus’s name, amen.
When have you received a timely word of encouragement? Let us know about it in the comments!